HOW TO BE A GOOD MOM AND WIFE. Finding the perfect way to balance being a good mom and a good wife can be pretty challenging for any woman. Most times, it feels really difficult to excel at one and still have the energy to be just as excellent at the other, but the interesting thing is that the role that suffers the most is being a good wife.
If you are on this boat, here is the good news: you can excel in both roles. Will it be easy? Definitely not, but it is certainly possible. One of the biggest mistakes a lot of women make is that they give too much of themselves trying to make everyone they love happy which results in them functioning on a nearly empty tank as they try to meet their kids’ every needs while trying to maintain a happy marriage.
Now here’s a crazy idea, what if you tried to put your own needs first? Impossible, you say? After all, how would a wife and mother put herself first when her partner and children are there to be taken care of?
Well, not only is it possible but it’s the only way to successfully balance your roles while remaining sane and healthy. Don’t misunderstand though, this is more than just putting your needs first. The big picture is finding a healthy balance between your needs and the needs of your kids and your partner. Are there things you can do to make it all work out?
Here are 11 tips to help you find that balance and end each day feeling like you’ve successfully become a good mom and a good wife instead of feeling like you have somehow failed your loved ones.
1. 15 MINUTES FOR THE KIDS
Once or twice in a day, disconnect yourself from your routine duties and enter your children’s world without any distractions. Enjoy playing with them and talking with them without interruptions. Doing this not only promotes positive attention, but it also strengthens your emotional connection with them.
2. HAVE SOME GIRL TIME
One of the easiest ways to get some perspective on the issues of being a wife and mother is hanging out with other women who are either currently experiencing the same struggles or have experienced them in the past.
3. COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR PARTNER
If you feel like you are drowning, discuss things with your partner. You might think it’s pretty obvious, but the man might not even know that you have any issues or that you are struggling. Communicate with him, it’ll bring you closer.
4. DON’T LET YOURSELF GO
It is very common for married women to let themselves go, both after getting married and after the kids are born. Don’t allow yourself the excuse of being tired and not taking care of your body. It could be a long walk with a friend, a short run, or a weekly trip to the gym, whichever works for you.
Maintaining your sexy look like working out results in less anger, frustrations and resentment and makes you healthier and happier which ultimately makes you a better mom – because you’ll be feeling great – and it improves your relationship with your partner – he’ll definitely be “very” happy. Win-win no?
5. EVERYONE GETS ALONE TIME
Just as it is important to go on dates with your partner, so also is it important to go on dates with just you and the kids. Taking the extra time to connect with each member of your family goes a long way.
6. PLAN A ROMANTIC GETAWAY
Some moms have this belief that the children must always come first, but the truth is, your spouse is the one that should always occupy that top slot.
Taking time off with your partner away from the kids is a great way to rekindle the love between you and nourish your relationship with your partner. When daddy and mummy are happy, the kids are happy too.
7. DAD WORKS HARD TOO
Many moms unintentionally try to show their kids that they do everything better than the kids’ dad. But you need to show them that daddy is more than capable of handling things if mummy can’t, and while his way of managing things might be different, it isn’t wrong. Doing this strengthens their relationship with their dad.
8. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
Remember what they tell you in an airplane in case you need to use oxygen masks? Put on yours first, then you can help your kids. As a mother, you tend to put the needs of others first before your own, at the end of the day, the whole family suffers. Make sure you give your “me” time priority and you’ll find that your kids and your partner will reap the benefits.
9. HAVE PERSONAL GOALS
If you have personal goals that you want to accomplish, chances are that your attention will be focused on the things you wish to achieve and you’ll be more inclined to make decisions and choices that put your needs first to achieve those goals.HOW TO BE A GOOD MOM AND WIFE.
10. CREATE FAMILY TRADITIONS
No matter what, time will pass, but making each moment special is what family traditions are all about. It could be a bog family tradition or a small one, the most important thing is that you do them regularly. You can establish a daily family tradition like having dinner together as a family or a weekly tradition like family movie night or a yearly tradition like having a family get-together every Christmas or doing something fun on New Year’s Day. Establishing a sense of routine helps your family to engage in activities together and it strengthens your relationship both with your kids and your partner.
11. PRAY WITH YOUR FAMILY
Ever heard the saying, “a family that prays together stays together?” Pray with your kids, pray with your partner, pray by yourself, pray as a family. Prayer works for any family and it keeps you all together.