A 32-year-old Australian virgin woman, has revealed why she’s still single. She said she doesn’t think there’s anything “wrong” with being a virgin and she doesn’t worry that she isn’t “worth liking”.
The unidentified lady told Mamamia that her singleness wasn’t conscious:
“It wasn’t a conscious decision. I, like many people, definitely want to find a person to love and respect who will reciprocate that.”
“Let’s put aside anyone I wasn’t attracted to. I probably could have forced myself into a drunken tryst or one-night stand just for the sake of experience, but the idea of it was always so unappealing to me and still is,” she said.
She further revealed that, she has met up with random people who caught her attention at a cafe or an event, but none of them resulted in anything further. As for people in her social circle she’s attracted to, she’s too scared that sharing her feelings will make them uncomfortable.
In the past, she told two of her friends that she liked them and although the first had a negative effect on her, she soon realized her resilience when it comes to not being liked in a romantic or sexual way.
“When I was rejected the second time in my late twenties, I could definitely see the positives – being rejected helps you know where you stand and stops you wasting time wondering,” she explained.
She said that the main barriers to starting a relationship are finding someone who is single, working up the confidence to share her feelings, and trusting the other person enough.