Bayo Ajibola

GOD TAKES AWAY A RELATIONSHIP. Relationships are the core of our lives. As we grow, we create and share bonds with people who eventually become important parts of our lives. Our spouses fall into this category of people. From the courtship days, our spouses become an integral part of our daily lives; we share everything and love each other senselessly. We spend days imagining ourselves sitting in their embrace and looking in each other’s eyes forever.

However, things do not always happen as you imagine. Sometimes, these people who occupy a special space in your heart leave at times that you never expect. It is sad and depressing when a parting occurs unexpectedly and pulls a loved one away from you, especially a spouse.

Losing a loved one is always difficult. It doesn’t matter if the loss was because of a separation or something awful like an accident or death. The loss will still be felt very deeply.

Even at the times that you may have seen it coming, it is still extremely shocking. It drains you and leaves you incomplete, with a vacuum in your heart. Most times, people never recover from the loss of a relationship.

These are four things to remember when a relationship ends. These points may sound unrealistic or strange now, but they are true and a constant reminder that will help you through your loss. GOD TAKES AWAY A RELATIONSHIP.

1. Jesus wants them

During his reign on earth, Jesus had certain desires. He had them on earth and even as time rolls between one era to the next, he still has desires.

You may be wondering what it is that Jesus wants? It is very simple. He wants his people to be with him. He is completely satisfied and happy as he reigns in heaven but Jesus wants his people to join him in the home he has prepared for them.

You must have heard this so much that it means nothing to you now, but it is the truth.  Jesus loves you and your loved one equally in every situation. His love does waver or change; it is unconditional.

“And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love.” Romans 8:38.

2. Your loss is God’s gain

When a loved one leaves, you should first remember that God has answered Jesus’ prayer. What I’m trying to say is God is ruler over the loss of your loved ones and he has purposes that you may never understand but you should cling to the truth that Jesus prayed for his father to bring his people home.

Yes, you may have lost because you will never again share companionship with the person in this life and the magnitude of the loss might even be difficult to describe but take comfort in the fact that Jesus said, “Father, I desire that they also, whom you have given me, may be with me where I am, to see my glory.”

I’ll say this much when a loved one is taken away, Jesus gains a lot more than you have lost.

3. God knows best.

When you were younger, your parents used to make decisions on your behalf that probably didn’t sound nice then. Once I asked my mom why she took a certain decision and she looked into my eyes and said, “Because I want the best for you.”

At that moment, it did not look like that was the best for me, but looking back now I am grateful for that decision and other decisions she took. That’s exactly how it is with God. It is not His will that you are depressed. He is your Father and the all-knowing God.

He knows the end of everything before it begins. Why He let certain things happen, you may never comprehend. But like the good father, He is, He wants the best for His children. He is always working beautiful things even in your grief.

4. God was making room for someone else.

You must have heard the saying, “When one door closes another one opens,”

This saying is a lot truer than you may realize. An opening in a relationship could be a gaping door for someone that is closer to what God has planned for both of you. It might be hard to trust that the loss of your relationship is in your best interest but sometimes these moments require a lot more faith in the aftermath and more trust in the consequences. GOD TAKES AWAY A RELATIONSHIP.

Throughout your childhood, your parents might have echoed this saying continuously, “Be careful the company you keep”

What if your relationship had become toxic? Sometimes God sees that this one person that you are focused on is not right for you. It is very easy for you to get caught in a rut and not open your eyes to see the situation for what it really was but God sees the bigger picture and he may have taken away your current relationship because it was unhealthy.

When change happens, your instant response is to say, “God, why?” It is very easy to take the emptiness you feel and turn it into intense anger towards a higher being but that is not the path to healing.

GOD TAKES AWAY A RELATIONSHIP. While it may look like this period of grief will never end, it will. It will only take time. At the end of it, you may look back and smile but take note of this verse from the bible that says, “Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing.”  James 1:2-4.


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