How to feel attractive while pregnant.5 WAYS TO HELP WITH YOUR SELF-ESTEEM DURING PREGNANCY

Bayo Ajibola

How to feel attractive while pregnant

The story going around is that pregnancy is a beautiful thing that transforms women into these beautiful goddesses that areconstantly glowing. Everyone, especially magazines, says that pregnancy makes you have an inexplicable glow that makes people jealous. As much as this happens to some women, the truth is that some women have a totally different experience.

Pregnancy for some translates to a facial breakout as though puberty forgot to finish its duties and the inevitable weight gain. Every woman has a certain size that she prefers to be and pregnancy usually goes against all your wishes. A few kilos come on without any kind of effort, bloating and discomfort and you have a recipe for ruined self-esteem right there.

Everyone else seems to be doing it gracefully but you can’t help but waddle along. It can be so frustrating! The heightened hormones also give their own contribution and you find yourself crying a lot and hating yourself. Some don’t even want to look in the mirror because they know they won’t like what they see.

Pregnancy however only lasts 9 months and the next stage usually sets in without warning. You are therefore better off trying to make the best of the situation instead of bashing yourself because you need the confidence and energy once your baby comes. How to go about this?

Remember the why

It may seem obvious but it is important to remember why all this is happening. You can even go on the internet and do your own research as to the details of the goings-on in your body. This will paint a clearer picture to you and will hopefully make you feel better.

You need to appreciate that you are carrying a life inside you and that in itself is a magical and wonderful thing. Focus on this and things will become a little easier to bear.

Accept that it’s okay

These changes are normal and they happen to most women. It is also normal to feel like you are the ugliest woman in the room in such a situation. Some women bash themselves for hating what they feel like during pregnancy because it can be translated as hating pregnancy or even the unborn baby. It doesn’t necessarily mean that so let loose and let things flow. Be at peace with who you are at that point in time.

Positive affirmations

Negative talk does not help you at all. It continues to eat at your confidence leaving you much less of whom you used to be. Change this practice to something more useful by telling yourself positive things each and every day.

Look at yourself in the mirror every day and tell yourself that you are beautiful as you are, mindless of what the expectation from the society is. Slim might not be an option right now but be comfortable with that and take it in your stride. This will help you slowly weed out the negativity from your system and your confidence will slowly increase.

Treat yourself well

Be good to yourself at this time so eat well, exercise, do some yoga, get enough sleep, take a warm bath, listen to calming music and generally be good to yourself to help improve your mood.

Talk it out

If you can find someone to confide in like your spouse, a therapist, a close friend or family member you can go ahead. Share your fears and concerns so that you get it off your chest. This is therapy in itself. Be careful who you talk to thoughbecause every woman’s experience is different.

Bayo Ajibola

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