There are times when we can’t control what life throws at us. However, we have the power to control how we react to these things that happen to us. You don’t have to resign yourself to living with a lump in your throat and a pessimistic outlook on life. Have you thought about your worries many times and no matter how hard you try, you can’t find how to overcome the pain and difficulties? This article has been carefully written to help you handle pain properly.
1. Have an action plan
Stop turning over and over the same thing. There are things you can control and things you cannot, period. If the pain you have is due to a situation that is not under your control, draw up an action plan that allows you to increase your chances of success as much as possible
If your heartbreak is about something you can’t fix, such as the death of a loved one or a breakup, set your plan of action to “let go” and move on. When you have your action plan ready, evaluate the actions you can start taking right now.
2. Distract yourself: Don’t overthink
We know that it is much easier said than done. One of the characteristics of anxiety is that it prevents us from thinking about something else. To be distracted, you have to focus your brain on other things. Find a very demanding task that requires your full attention and focus on it for as long as possible.
If you can, it is doubly useful if the task has to do with your plan of action to solve the problem. It may also be something that will make your life better. You can focus on your job, business, dreams, goals and more. Just something that you enjoy doing and it’ll keep you busy.
3. Try to turn off the news
Seeing on the news that everything is wrong around the world can make the task of overcoming anguish even more difficult. This is because the newscasts give us a sad and pessimistic view of the world.
If you add these negative emotions to the problems you are already dealing with, it is perfectly natural for hopelessness to grow and you convince yourself that nothing will ever work out. And what you really need is the exact opposite.
When you want to overcome heartbreak, you should avoid other sources of concern that can exacerbate the problem. Try to surround yourself with positive environments, people, and events.
4. Help others when you can
If you can’t do much to solve your problem, what if you try to help other people solve theirs? By volunteering or dedicating yourself to a good cause you can distract yourself from your anguish, while doing something positive for the world.
These types of actions help you expand your vision and realize that the reason for your anguish is really not that serious when you compare it with other people’s problems. It can also help you adjust and deal better with whatever problem you’re dealing with.
5. Do something that makes you happy
Anxiety is an accumulation of negative feelings that cover a very wide spectrum of unpleasant sensations. Reflect on the emotions you are experiencing. Afraid? Worry? Sadness? Uncertainty? Nervousness?
Find things that interest you and do them. It could be reading, writing, dancing, seeing movies and more. Some people like to travel, see new places, go to cinemas, museums, zoo or other beautiful places. This is usually very helpful and highly recommended.
6. Take care of yourself
Sometimes we have no way to resolve a conflict that causes us terrible distress. That does not mean that we should sit idly by waiting for the discomfort to go away by itself.
There are many things you can do to alleviate that feeling. Most have to do with taking care of yourself. When you are well, other things begin to improve.
Get in shape. Check your diet. Take a hot bath or massage. Dedicate yourself to a spa and beauty session in the afternoon. Take your time to remind yourself how wonderful you are. It will help you improve.