Bayo Ajibola


Life has many twists and turns. Most young women are focused on being the best at their university or at their job and there just isn’t enough time to factor in a baby. Sometimes you may have gone through a lot of heartbreak and you decide that marriage and children are not for you.

Whatever the reason for holding out may be, most women tend to develop an urge to have children much later in life even after making a firm decision not to have any. Conceiving is a natural process that is easier in your 20s and 30s. As you draw nearer to your 40s it becomes a little more difficult.

Some say that 40 is the new 30 what with career development and the fact that you are more comfortable in your skin at this age. You are generally a more responsible and mature version of yourself.

When a girl is born she already has all her eggs intact as they wait for maturity. The egg supply dwindles with age and after 40 it reduces much faster. The speed is so high after 40 such that the chances of a woman at 40 conceiving within a year of trying are about 40%. At 43 it drops to 1 or 2 percent.

Getting pregnant naturally at this age can be difficult and emotionally draining. You can consider yourself having problems conceiving after a year of constant regular sex (every 2 or 3 days during your cycle) and no results.

If this occurs there are other fertility treatments that can assist you. IVF (In Vitro Fertilization) where one of your eggs is fertilized outside your body is very common. The further you are into your 40s then the lower your chances of using your own eggs since they may not be viable. This means that you may require a donor. Success rates of IVF also reduce with age.

Having a baby in your 40s is not as bad as people make it out to be. Babies need care and nurturing and at 40 you are more emotionally stable to handle a child. Your confidence in your abilities is high so small mistakes might not frustrate you as they would a younger woman.

You are also presumably financially stable after all the years spent working so you will be better able to cater to the baby’srequirements. Babies are expensive to maintain! Putting all this into play, it really is not all doom and gloom to try conceiving in your 40s.

Bayo Ajibola

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