‘Children are a Product of Love, Not Marriage’! Damilola Adegbite on Handling Backlash of Having A Baby before Marriage.

In an interview with the magazine, Dami talks on dealing with the backlash of having a child before marriage. According to Dami;

“We love our fans and supporters, without whom we won’t be called celebrities. But here’s the truth; our work is our work and our personal lives are ours to deal with, hopefully none of the people who love our work are completely emulating our lives, so I’m hoping that they can accept and respect what our choices and decisions are. Without letting that get in the way of how much they appreciate our work.

The truth is I have my personal life to live. My partner and I have made decisions based on how we deem fit and I will totally take having a baby out of wedlock than having an abortion. The baby came at the best time he was meant to come. We love each other and already had plans of being together so why not. Thankfully our families and those who their opinions really mattered were okay with our decisions.  

I recall in a recent article, where the same question was thrown at the musician Brymo and he said that – children were a product of love and not marriage and I completely agree. I’m not one to live my life based on other people’s standards. Fortunately for me, I didn’t get a lot of heat from people, in fact most people who knew about us were very happy about everything. The people who knew the journey that we passed through called it a miracle that we could come this far.

I remember when I told Chris I was pregnant, he laughed uncontrollably… I was shocked. He was so happy and that was all that mattered to me at the time. My family is doing great and I hope that everyone can respect that. Like the saying goes – whoever wears the shoe, knows where the shoe pinches (laughing). Bryan is a miracle and was given to us for a reason we both know. He came at the time we didn’t expect but it was such a beautiful timing. I wouldn’t trade that feeling for a million fans.

Some people have asked me if having a child obligated Chris to marry me and here’s my answer, there are a lot of baby mamas out there who their baby daddies didn’t marry, so having a kid for a guy doesn’t guarantee anything.

To us, Bryan sealed the deal for us – his coming made us know that God was leading us to the path we had always wanted and it would have been foolish for us not to jump on it. And Bryan brought a lot of change, redirection, focus, organisation and unity.“