Bayo Ajibola

I met this guy some 2 years back, and we started a relationship. He had to travel and be away from the country, sometimes for a duration of 8 months or more because of a certification program. We talked about this. I wasn’t exactly comfortable with the long distance separation, but I made up my mind to keep my man and relationship intact. For the first time in my life, I found myself taking nude selfies. We had a lot of Skype and Facetime calls. He knew I was just a phone call away if ever had the urge for sex. There was no excuse to cheat, or so I thought. Fast forward to December 2015. Unknown to me, Oga had been frolicking with an ex-girlfriend. Long story short, she got pregnant. He finally had the gall to inform me in June, when she was like 6 months gone. Hmmm. The emotional pain is better imagined. Food? I was surviving on water and air. Where I see appetite. Sleep? That was a luxury. I went from a size 8 to a size 4. Took God’s grace to keep my job because I kept making silly errors and got several queries from my boss. She is aware I’m in the picture (or so he says). Like that makes any difference. He claims it was a one-night stand and that he was under the influence of alcohol. I had a premonition it would be a double birth. Lo and behold she gave birth to twin babies, a boy and a girl.
Now, she is relocating to Nigeria with him and the babies, claiming she cannot handle them alone. I’ve endured my pain in silence, praying for the strength to move on but this is the last straw that has broken my back. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. Now, I’m done with self-pity. The babies are innocent and have no fault in this but as for this man, I have plans for him. Imagine he wants us to continue as before, like nothing happened. Says he might be forced to do the right thing by her, for the sake of the babies. Irony is, I could have gotten pregnant several times, but I considered his financial situation and didn’t. As for the baby mama, she will rue the day she got pregnant for him. I will grant her wish to have him all to herself, albeit at a cost. One she will never recover from. I’m filled with such bitterness, I don’t feel the pain anymore.

Bayo Ajibola

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