HOW TO DEAL WITH TEENAGE ATTITUDE: At one point, one would look at the gangling long legged person on top of your couch and shiver thinking you use to kiss and lick those once tiny toes and fingers. That very little kid who us to curl up inside of you now snaps at the smallest thing or growls as you get closer to them. You are welcome to the teen years. It will appear the harder you try, the harder they growl. You attempt chatting to them as you use to but instead of chirpy chat you receive one-word answers and that look. The harder you try the more uncommunicative they become.
Also, sorry to be the bearer of bad news, comes the news that you are the world’s worst parent and it is solely your fault for every single bad thing in their life. It is at this point you might actually start to believe it all too. Before you resign yourself to the title of world’s worst parent let me first reassure you that you are probably not the world’s worst. Your dear little snuggles have hormones rushing around their bodies creating all kinds of mischief. Mix that with new found freedom of teenage life, new/old friendship dynamics, exams, careers choices and anything and everything else its no wonder they are acting differently.
So remember you are also not the only one dealing with this and even the most thoughtfully and well-mannered child will at some point test the grounds of attitude. With all that in mind here are 5 tips for coping with the lovely new found attitude.
1 – Defuse with Humor : No you don’t have to turn into the next show stopping comedian but how you react sometimes to something can make it go one of two ways. As long as you don’t mock or ridicule, sometimes an argument can be defused with humor. This gives you both time to calm down. It doesn’t have to be just arguments that this can work on either. You know your situation best so see if there are ways you can defer situations or get a point across that uses humor.
2 – Pick Your Battles : As your children are growing you teach them different manners and behaviors. As they start to test their teenage life they at times shrug or tut. Your first reaction is to shout, get angry and correct them. Sometimes it’s good for both them and your sanity if you pick your battles. Ignore and carry on your way. If of course, it starts to escalate then let them know the new behavior isn’t acceptable.
3 – Use Your Manners : When your child is going through the teens, it can seem like that you spend the whole time asking them to do this, don’t do that , please do this now as I’ve asked 100 times etc. So when they do something let them know you’re thankful. You don’t have to go into overkill as they will see through it and will have the opposite result. But by saying thank you when it’s needed, and meaning it, it will show them you are not always nagging them and you are human really.
4 – Shake it Up : There might be times when you have to dish out punishment. Yes, it horrible, yes you’re both going to go through it but put your big parent pants on and get on with it. You are the parent. But when you do have to enforce punishment make sure it’s fitting for the offense and don’t dish out the same thing each time. Taking away mobiles doesn’t always work when they are used to it. Try taking away chargers instead. Be unpredictable so that they do know what the punishment will be. If they don’t know what you are going to do it might be enough to stop them in the first place.
5 – Know the Rules : Sometimes life just seems to happen and all of a sudden you are in a situation of your child doing a behavior that is not acceptable. But before you dive off the deep end, and hopefully before the situation, make sure everyone knows what is acceptable and what is not. We are good at teaching little ones all the little things but at some point, it stops. This one really is best before they reach their teens but try and teach them what is acceptable and what is not. One of the easiest ways is watching tv with them. Most evenings a soap is on with a teenager doing something. It’s an ideal time to bring the subject up and discuss with your child.
Hopefully these tips, with your willingness, patience and understanding will help in the dreaded teenage years. But remember it doesn’t last forever and you were a teenager once and you and your parents survived.
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