My husband is forcing us to be a blended family

My situation is a little complicated. We started out as a regular family and we’ve been together for eleven years now. We have three children together. My husband now wants to introduce a new dynamic and I’m not happy about it.

My husband had an affair and a child was born from it. I wasn’t happy about it because I felt betrayed. I didn’t leave my husband though. I stayed to fight for our marriage and I thought we were fine. Now he wants me to accept this child into our family. He spoke of introducing him to my children and I don’t like that idea at all. How will we explain the child’s parentage to my children?

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The child lives with his mother so he hasn’t mentioned bringing the child to live with us. I don’t know what I would do if it ever got this far. I don’t think I have it in me to raise an illegitimate child because he’ll be a constant reminder that my husband broke our vows. A blended family isn’t my choice.

My husband currently works outside the country and this issue is driving us even further apart. I don’t want to lose my marriage but this is so difficult. It feels like adding salt to an already wounded leg and it hurts. It’s like he’s taking the disrespect further and further and is pushing me to my limits. I feel so helpless, lost, and lonely and I don’t know what to do.

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