I Am In Love With An Older Woman But Her Daughter Is Getting In The Way

Bayo Ajibola

I met Ann a while ago, one night with friends in a club. She looked tight no doubt. Everyone was having a good time and I knew she was into me. We went home together after clubbing.

Even though we both had a great time,we both did not want a relationship,so there was no exchange of contact of anything. I am 28 years old and I really do not plan on settling down in the next five years so for me, I am just having fun.- Advertisement –

I date casually and I always make my intentions clear. I met a very beautiful lady (lets call her Fiona) on a dating site. After weeks of chatting,we met up. I suspected she maybe older than me but she looked quite classy and s*xy at the same time.

We hooked up a couple of times and I made the mistake of asking her if she wanted something more permanent cos I liked her alot. She really made me happy. She agreed and then she told me she has a 21 year old daughter and 18 year old son.

I swear to God…she looks like she is 20 years old or less. But she is 39. She got pregnant at 18. Married a rich dude and had 2 children for him. Dude divorced her 6 years ago. I liked her too much everyday. Being with her is fun and no baggage.

For the first time,I began to think of maybe settling down with someone if she is willing to wait a little more,maybe in 2 or 3 years time. We have been together for about 4 months before she invited me to her house last month. I met a shock: Ann from the club is her daughter.

As you can imagine…I was embarrassed and in a hurry to leave the house. I tried to avoid Ann all through the visit but this girl found a way to corner me and told me she wants to talk to me. I told her not to say anything to her mom..I gave her my number.- Advertisement –

She called me the next day and she found it very funny that I was with her mother. I asked her not to say anything cos I really like her mother and she told me her mother likes me too but she thinks her  mom is only using me a toy to satisfy herself.

Ann told me that she has not stopped thinking of me since we met about 6 months ago. Since then,she as been chatting with me and flirting with me. I knew this was dangerous so I blocked her line.- Advertisement –

I thought I had gotten rid of Ann but she somehow managed to find out where I work and showed up at my place of work. And she promised to keep showing up until I let her come see me in my place.

Ann started coming to my place and I started sleeping with her as well as her mother. Bad of me right? But then…Ann made it clear that her mother was also seeing other men apart from me. This information, I confirmed from Fiona. She told me that she loves me alot but she has some sugar daddies that sponsor her …but its nothing like what we have..that she is in love with me.

Unfortunately, Fiona is not aware that her daughter is seeing me too. I like Fiona alot. I can see me settling down with her if she dumps her sugar daddies. Strange right but somehow, I have always fancied older women. I think they make better partners and they give you peace of mind than these young girls.

My problem now is…how do I break up with Ann..I wont lie…Ann is super attractive…trying to free myself from her will be hell cos she is not backing down….how do I make her see that I really prefer mother…should I tell Fiona about Ann…will that help? Will Fiona be able to look past the fact that her daughter likes me but I do not like her? Maybe I am crazy…should I break up with both of them?

Every day..I am falling in love with Fiona but Ann will not let me be. What should I do? I do not want to hurt Fiona. She is my angel.


From Kenya

Bayo Ajibola

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