Kindly post this but hide my identity before you do that. I am in a relationship with someone I thought loved me and wanted a future with me. He is a cool person and seemed very concerned about me and my welfare. He always thought about me and was always looking for a way to make me happy and also help me improve. When I met him, he was working in one private university as a low-level staff. Now he has gotten to a better level and he has improved greatly. He is a very nice guy. We have been dating for over a year now and I know the impact he has made in my life. I don’t like talking to people about my relationship because I love my privacy but because of how much I love this guy, I introduced him to my friends and one of my siblings. With the way our relationship was flourishing, I honestly thought that we were going to end up together so I was very free with him.
We had a sexual relationship. I am not someone to sleep around but I met this guy and I felt at peace with him. I loved him deeply and I couldn’t pretend. Our relationship was going well so I felt there was no need to keep being uptight. We had sex at intervals even though I made sure that he was fully protected. I also checked my menstrual calendar and ensured I stuck to it. I have always been careful, not just to avoid pregnancy but also to avoid any sexually transmitted diseases. As far as I know, he was faithful to me and we were good. He helped out many times and I had no reason to double-check our relationship.
I hate to say this but I am pregnant for him. I honestly can’t explain it but I am pregnant. I missed my period and I have been feeling sick. I was really disappointed. I had a lot of plans for myself and having a child was nowhere in the picture. I told my boyfriend and he isn’t saying anything encouraging. When I told him, he reassured me and made me feel like I had nothing to worry about. He agreed to be responsible and said that he would always be there for me through every step of the way. The next time we spoke, he said he wasn’t ready to father a child yet and would want to abort it.
I felt used, unhappy, sad and angry. I don’t think I would ever be ready to have an abortion. I honestly thought that he would talk about marrying me but he didn’t say anything about it. I asked him and he said he wasn’t ready for marriage. I really don’t know what to do. He is financially stable and is doing well generally. I feel sad that he is treating me this way. I honestly thought that we were on the same page. I don’t know what to do with myself right now. I can’t have an abortion, I am very scared of the outcome. I can’t keep this child out of wedlock, I can’t bear the stigma and my family will be forever disappointed in me. What do I do?