I found my husband secretly recording me, thereafter discovered porn of his ex on his phone..

Bayo Ajibola

I seriously can’t process this in a clear way however I will try my best !

My husband of 5 years and father of my kid set his phone up to record me as he put our daughter to bed. I was getting ready to have a shower when I remembered my hair comb was in the other bathroom. I use my phone flashlight so that my 2 year old doesn’t see the light under the door and holler for mama.

I grabbed the first phone I saw, believing it was my own. It wasn’t. After I picked it up a video had been recording for Ten minutes. I don’t really know what I felt at this point, anger, horror, confusion, panic. Is this the reason why he offered to put the baby to sleep?? He never offers, I usually have to ask.

I quickly scrolled his videos to find out whether there were a lot more, and discovered a second, shorter video at a completely different angle recorded right before. I instinctually? went to his recently deleted next suspected he didn’t realise that folder existed. He’s a new iPhone user. Did I find more recordings of me? No, but rather!!! A lovely, very recently deleted, very intimate sex video of his ex. Ok, i’ll clarify- we’ve got a very adventurous sex life and porn is simply not forbidden at all. But THIS. THIS! Felt fucking awful.

The most terrible part is he being super la-de-da about it, genuinely claiming he had no clue how it got on his phone. Like, it doesn’t happen with the slip of a finger. His attitude is alarmingly relaxed, saying it was 10 years ago, and making crude sex innuendos at the same time. Also secretly recording me.

A lot to process here. I feel violated. Our sex life is wonderful and healthy. Or so I believed. I mean how brazen do you have to be the stage a secret recording, but wow, the ex girlfriend porncherry on top is a real treat. I’m freaking out. Also feel like I’m being recorded. How did the two of these things happen in 2 minutes? I don’t even know what I’m asking for here. Cannot process. I might be in shock ?!


Bayo Ajibola

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