A South African woman, Ifeyiwa Mkhize says she intends to serve her husband like a king and won’t deviate from the ‘old ways’ saying she won’t allow modernity deprive her of special moments that make her man feel “seen and acknowledged.”
Her post below:
“This is literally how we grew up seeing our mothers serve our fathers and as soon as we were old enough, we were taught how to do it and to do it right.
My father, a layman and commoner was served like a king in his home because that’s exactly what he is. As soon as he walked in, I would take his jacket and shoes, hand him the remote and proceed to the kitchen to either tell my mom that he has confirmed that he is hungry or to fetch the warm water for him to wash his hands and wipe with a clean cloth.
Sometimes my mother and I would pass each other on the passage as she carried the food on a tray or I’d go back and fetch everything.
I grew to love and enjoy this. I did it even on days when I was fuming at my dad, I did it with a wide smile suppressing my actual feelings.
I did it on days when my mom was feeling lazy and my father, seeing the days that have passed since his wife served him he would ask “angisenamfazi yini lay’khaya? Ngalokhe ngineswa ingane”
My dad loved it but he loved it more from his wife. This ke is the aspiration. I have no interest to move from our old ways. If being modern will deprive me of special moments, moments that make my man feel seen and acknowledged… ngithi nje chooo