I’m in love with my best friend more than my boyfriend – Lady speaks.

Good day. I need advice. I have a boyfriend who I have been dating for barely a year now. He is a good person and helps me out when I am in need. I am in 200 level while this my boyfriend is doing his youth service in Owerri currently. I stay in sokoto so because of the distance, we only speak on the phone or chat on WhatsApp. 

The problem now is that I no longer love him as before. I have a best friend who I have known for more than seven years now. He also stays in sokoto and we are family friends too. Because of this, we are always together and also hang out with each other. 

Because of the Lockdown and this ASUU strike, we were able to stay together frequently and we got used to each other’s company. This my best friend is very nice and he is always concerned about my well-being. When I was sick, he was with me and even got drugs for me. He makes sure I am fine and lacks nothing. 

He comes from a wealthy family and his parents and siblings are nice. Sometimes I sleep over at his family house and he comes to my house too. Our family is very close and our parents know that we are best friends. I think I am beginning to fall in love with my best friend. 

He is a very supportive person. He cares about my personal development and ensures I work towards being a better person. I really love him so much. I admire a lot of things about him but I don’t know how to inform him. I want to let him know I love him but I don’t know how or if I should do so. 

I would like to have a relationship with him and possibly it can lead to marriage. I don’t know how he would react if I tell him I love him and want a relationship. I don’t want him to think I am going overboard and get uncomfortable with me. I love our friendship and would not want to lose what we have. 

I am afraid that if I tell him, he will start avoiding me and our friendship will end. I know people that get married to their best friends and it works for them. I have known my bestie for long and we understand each other which means we can have a perfect marriage. 

I am ready to end things with my boyfriend. I just want to be sure of what I want before I call him. Our communication is not all that strong anymore and he doesn’t even have enough money to send to me again. He complains that things are not going well but I don’t even care. I love my best friend and want to have a relationship with him. Please what do I do? I don’t want to do anything wrong. Hide my identity please.