Insecurity & Double Standards Threaten Our Relationship: Please Advice

Bayo Ajibola

It’s been nearly a year since my boyfriend and I embarked on this incredible journey together. He’s not just any ordinary guy, he’s kind, charming, and utterly captivating. Our relationship has become quite serious, and I can’t help but envision a future filled with wedding bells and eternal love. However, amidst all the bliss, there’s one hurdle we need to overcome.

We both find ourselves entangled in the captivating world of entertainment. With his irresistible charm and constant movement, he has become the object of adoration for countless fans. I, too, have experienced the same attention, thanks to the nature of our industry. It’s no secret that our line of work tends to attract admirers from all walks of life.

Personally, I’m not one to get jealous easily. I’m completely unfazed by the multitude of female fans that surround him. However, an unexpected twist arises as he becomes increasingly insecure about the attention I receive from male admirers. To put his mind at ease, I made the difficult decision to sever all ties with my ex, who also happens to be in the entertainment scene.

Just when I thought we had resolved our trust issues, fate decided to play its hand. My ex, who was already preoccupied with another engagement, reached out to me with a tempting offer. He proposed that I take on a gig in his stead. Unfortunately, my boyfriend vehemently refused, citing the source of the offer as the primary reason for his objection. I couldn’t help but feel a wave of discontent wash over me. In my frustration, I confronted him, labelling his behavior as insecurity. Needless to say, it led to a heated argument, and in the end, I had to relinquish the gig for the sake of peace.

But life has a peculiar way of teaching us lessons when we least expect it. I recently discovered that my boyfriend had entered into a business partnership with one of his persistent female fans, someone who has made no secret of her desire for him. The blatant double standards and selfishness of his actions left me disheartened and questioning the future of our relationship.

And just yesterday, a seemingly innocent notification popped up on my Facebook messenger. It was a casual greeting from my ex, simply checking in on me during these challenging times of lockdowns and uncertainty. I read the message out of curiosity but refrained from responding. Little did I know that my boyfriend had stumbled upon the chat and was overcome with a gloomy mood. Naturally, I asked him what was bothering him, only to discover that he had seen the message from my ex. The message I had neither acknowledged nor replied to. The audacity! He had the nerve to question why I was still engaging with my ex.

Honestly, I’m at my wit’s end. What kind of jealousy or insecurity is this? Must I explain every single action and decision I make? And what about him, conducting business with a woman who clearly has ulterior motives?

As much as I adore my boyfriend, I find myself grappling with a dilemma. These double standards and insecurities have become too much for me to handle. I’m exhausted from constantly justifying my actions. I desperately seek your advice. What should I do?

Bayo Ajibola

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