What can you do when you feel like you are beginning to lose love for your spouse? Many marriages are without love. Your marriage does not necessarily have to be difficult for you to stop loving your spouse. Sometimes the marriage becomes stale and dull, and you just walk away. Just like fighting and arguing all the time, this type of routine in your relationship is also very dangerous.
It can be even more dangerous because couples do not usually see “tranquility” as a sign of a bad relationship. Since they are not fighting or shouting, they think their relationship is good. But an old, comfortable relationship like a slipper is dangerous because there is a risk that one of you will stop loving your spouse. Once love dies in the relationship it is difficult to create that spark again.
So, what can you do when you feel like you fell into one of these holes and start losing your love for your spouse? Are you doomed to a loveless and dull marriage? Absolutely not. There are steps you can take to restore your marriage and create a happy love relationship again. Below are four tips to help you do just that.
1. Have nights for just the two of you
Just like when your relationship was new, have a special time for just the both of you. No kids, no friends, phones, or other gadgets, just you and your partner. Everyone has heard the advice to take a night out to date, right? It sounds cliché, but it’s true. Going out alone together at night guarantees contact with your spouse which means more than just “how was your day?” or things like that.
Go out together and talk about you. This is not the time to talk about children or domestic concerns. Just talk and try to discover something new about each other. It renews your love and relives the memories of the good old days.
2. Do new things together
Routines can be boring. Loveless relationships often happen when you do the same boring things together. Therefore, add a little variety to your life. Visit new places and do new things. Seeing your spouse’s reaction the first time they try a new sport or try new food is a great way to discover something new about them and recreate some spark. You do not need to completely ditch the things you are used to, you can just take a break and focus on the new things.
3) Talk to your spouse
Talking to your partner doesn’t refer to the usual boring conversations you both have. It involves more than just talking. Talk from the depth of your heart and express genuinely how you feel, your concerns, and all. Yes, if you feel that your love for your partner is decreasing, it can be difficult to talk to your partner about it.
You don’t want to hurt your feelings with his negative reactions but you can’t keep running away from the truth. Speak about it and confront him. Don’t sweep issues under the rug, tackle them immediately they occur and both parties will know peace.
4) Have your own identity in addition to your husband/wife
It is important to do things together, as a couple, but it is also important to be an individual. If you don’t have your own tastes, interests, and hobbies, it becomes difficult for your spouse to be someone unique and exciting, with whom he wants to connect. Allow yourself to have your own interests outside of your marriage and family. This not only helps you, but it helps your marriage and your partner.
Just because a couple doesn’t fight does not mean that their marriage is happy. Many couples who do not fight or argue all the time stopped loving each other a while ago. This should be taken as seriously as if you were always fighting because the doldrums in marriage are just as damaging and lead to personal and marital unhappiness. These four tips can help you get out of that routine and make your marriage passionate, vibrant, and fun.