Please advise me. I don’t know what to do. I am 24 and I am currently in 300 level in the University. I have a girlfriend and we have been dating since my second year and things have been going smoothly for the both of us. It has always been a sexual relationship and we both consent to it. However, things have changed and I feel terrible, confused and scared. My girlfriend called me last week to inform me that she is pregnant. I have not been myself since then. I am very confused. I don’t know what to do. She is also scared and I don’t even have the best response for her. We still talk but things have changed. Our communication has grown very cold and I am sad. I feel very guilty for everything because I can remember that the last time we had sex, the condom slipped but I immediately withdrew when I realized it. It was fast so I didn’t see any need to panic or even inform her. I overlooked it and didn’t bother making it a big deal. Apart from that, we had sex like three or four days back and she took the emergency contraceptive pill so I felt that it would still have an effect even if I released in her.
My girlfriend is a very nice girl and I love her so much but we are still very young. I can’t even think of taking care of a child at this age. I took her to another hospital to run another pregnancy test and it still came out positive. I know I made a mistake but I feel sorry. I did not see my girlfriend for two weeks because I didn’t even know what to say to her. She felt like I had abandoned her but that’s not the case. I just don’t know the way forward. I was taken unawares. I later called her. I wanted to suggest to her that we have an abortion but I don’t know how she will receive the news or feel. I asked her what she wanted to do but she was just in tears. She later said she wanted to keep the baby. I was very scared and confused. She is just in second year, and I am in my third year. We still have a long way to go so how is she going to handle it? Besides that, I don’t know how to face her parents or my parents. My parents will be very disappointed in me. I don’t even know how I will face the public.
I tried to talk her out of her decision to keep the child but she wouldn’t listen. She said she is very scared of having an abortion. She is scared that there might be complications that may damage her womb or she may die. I understand her fears, I am also afraid but I believe that a good medical personnel can do the procedure with little or no complications. I love her so much and I really want the best for her. She has been very nice to me since we met and I can’t even begin to imagine my life without her. I feel very guilty for everything that happened, I know that it’s my fault but I need suggestions on how to handle this situation and make things right. This girl has done so much for me and I am not willing to watch her go through this kind of difficult time and public disgrace. I put her through this and I want her to survive it.
She can’t have a child at this age. It is not safe, it will threaten her future and I don’t want that for her. I have been begging to see her but she is beginning to resent me. She rarely takes my call anymore. I have to call her over and over again before she will take my calls. Sometimes I am even forced to send her a message when she doesn’t pick my calls. Please, I am very tired and confused. Kindly tell me what to do. I am willing to make amends. I want to save my girlfriend and myself. I want to save our future. If I find a solution, I am willing to stop having sex with her. Please, I need a solution as soon as possible.