I am at this point in my relationship where I do not know what to do. I don’t know if I should continue or I should just end everything and pick the pieces of myself left. Since I started dating this my current boyfriend, he has been so indifferent. He does not spend on me or try to buy me anything.
He is always complaining that he doesn’t have money, I understand that things are not going well but at least once in a while, he should get me something. Since we started dating he has not asked to go out with me for a date, lunch or any casual outing. I am always the one initiating the outing and even when I do, he brings up excuses that he doesn’t have time.
The few times he agreed to go out, I was even the person that paid. I was thinking he would even try and pay but he did not. I paid with my credit card and he acted like nothing was wrong. Even while we were there, we were not having any real conversation, it was as if I was forcing him to talk to me. He kept looking around as if he was looking for someone in particular.
I do not understand why he doesn’t like going out with me. I don’t know if it’s that he is not proud of me or what. I don’t want to brag but I don’t look bad. I may not be the finest person but I don’t look anything close to bad. I am fairly, tall and smart. I do not have so much money but I work and most of my money go into the relationship.
I will go to his house and buy things to cook for him but he doesn’t even give me the money back. I don’t know if I am in a relationship with myself. I don’t know why he doesn’t appreciate me. I know the number of men that want to date me but u have fallen deeply in love with this guy. Rich men are always asking me out and even when some of them give me money, I still use it to cook for him.
I have bought clothes for him and most times I cook for him with my money. I have also helped him pay his house rent. All these are just few of the many things I do for him. I really go out of my way to make sure he is happy but he doesn’t appreciate any of it. It is becoming very frustrating. I do not know what I am benefiting from this relationship. I think the love I have for him is messing with my head. I can’t think straight.
What do you advise I do? Should I continue in this relationship and hope he will change or I should end everything. For the record, we were friends before we started dating and we were very close. We were find of eachother and even though he didn’t have a good paying job then, I bought things for me I called me regularly.
This is why I don’t understand why he is acting this way. He was the one that asked me out so why is he acting like this. What should I do? I am honestly fed up with this nonchalant attitude of his. I need your advice. I don’t want it to look like I left him because he doesn’t have money.