My Brother Is Marrying Into A Dysfunctional Family:Please advise

Bayo Ajibola

Hey there, I need your help! I’m really concerned about my twin brother’s situation, and I could really use some advice. You see, he’s been single for a while now, and it’s been quite a topic of conversation since I got married seven years ago. Everyone keeps teasing him about when he’ll find his match. He’s been in a few relationships before, but none of them have worked out.

But then, along came this incredible woman. She’s kind, caring, beautiful, and hardworking—the whole package. It’s easy to see why my brother fell head over heels for her. She seemed like someone who came from a solid and spiritually grounded background. I actually got the chance to meet her about eight months ago, and we instantly clicked as friends.

Finally, my brother proposed to her about four months ago, and we had the traditional introduction ceremony with her family two months ago. Now, here’s where things took a worrisome turn. After the introduction, some unsettling revelations came to light. You know how it is in our small village; people tend to know everything about everyone.

So, the shocking revelation is that any man who marries into this lady’s family will encounter misfortune. Her father apparently ignored the warning signs and married her mother, only to tragically die in a car accident where he was the sole victim.

Her mother has four daughters and one son. The son has been married for almost a decade but hasn’t been able to have children. The eldest sister got married and divorced, and another sister has children with three different men, none of whom married her. Then, there’s the single sister, and sadly, the remaining sister lost her husband to cancer.

It’s all quite unsettling, to say the least. My brother was aware of some of these stories, but he’s not one to believe in supernatural or spiritual matters. Both the girl and her mother are genuinely kind people—I’ve even met her mother myself. But given what we’ve learned, I don’t want to risk losing my brother if there’s any truth to these ominous family patterns.

My mother is in a state of panic, insisting that my brother call off the marriage. My father and siblings are urging us to pray, but everyone is on edge. The only one who seems unfazed is my brother. He thinks we’re overreacting and has made up his mind to proceed with the marriage, with or without our support.

I can’t help but wonder if my brother is under some sort of enchantment that prevents him from being bothered by all these warnings. His fiancée actually spoke to me about it, assuring me that even if the rumors were true, she’s a devout born-again Christian who will break any negative bond. I questioned her about whether she would advise her own brother to proceed if the roles were reversed, and she simply replied that it would ultimately be the man’s choice.

She has a point—it’s my brother’s decision after all. But my fear is that he might be making this choice without seeing clearly. Are we just being overly dramatic? Should we rely on prayer and hope that my brother’s marriage will turn out differently from the experiences of the other family members?

I would truly appreciate your advice in this matter.Regenerate response

Bayo Ajibola

Welcome to Whatever your  problem, marital, relationship, spiritual or parenting. We are here for you. No matter how difficult they are, together we can release power sufficient to solve these problems either spiritual or otherwise. Don't dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do next. Spend your energies on moving forward toward finding the answers and solutions.  Digging at the roots instead of just hacking at the leaves is our way of solving your problems. On naijaprents we break the problem down into components and solve one problem at a time. Let's hear from you.Join the conversation on our Forum and , like us on our Facebook page .Google+

Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.