Please hide my identity. I am a mom and my only child is five years old. I have been trying to conceive for over three years now but nothing is happening. My husband and I have gone to different hospitals and even seen many gynaecologists but they said we are both okay. I am very worried because people are making side comments and it is not being easy on me. My husband and I have gone for IVF once but it was not successful. I do not know what the problem could be. We did not have our first child immediately after we got married. This was because I was still a student then. I was in my final year and my husband said it was best if I concentrated on my academics and I did.
I got pregnant for my first child after my graduation and it was not even difficult for me. Both my mother and my mother in law were happy. My husband and I are both learned people so we agreed to space our kids, at least give them three years space each. When my daughter was two years, we began trying for another child and ever since then, nothing has been successful. I am fully okay. I have gone for so many tests and the results confirm that I am fine. I once had a urinary tract infection but I treated it after seeing a doctor and ran some tests after which confirmed I am fine. My husband too is fine so I do not know what is going on.
My mother-in-law is beginning to act towards me in a weird way and it is making me very uncomfortable. She keeps on asking when I will give her a male grandson and, honestly, it is very annoying. I try as much as possible to be polite with her but she keeps getting on my nerves. The first time she asked was when my daughter was about two years, I told her that her son and I want to space our kids and that we will give her another grandchild when the time is right. It has been over 5 years since after I gave birth to my child and her disturbance is getting me worried. I come from a family of seven children so I will not say it is a hereditary problem. My sister that got married before me both have kids and they never had any challenge conceiving.
My husband on the other hand came from a family of 5 children so it is obviously not a problem from his side. I have prayed and tried everything possible. A friend suggested we try IVF and we did but it was not successful. The money for it was huge and we even had to borrow so we could try it out. My husband has also been very supportive and I feel sad that I have not been able to give him a male child. I do not know what to do. I have run out of options and that is one of the reasons why I am writing to you. What should I do? I can’t continue to stay like this. I need kids and I am not getting any younger. Please what can I do? I am willing to try anything. I have prayed. I need help.