I’m interested in sharing my story but want to be anonymous.My parents were not together so I stayed with my aunt when I was a kid. My mum left when I was in junior secondary school and I saw my dad only twice.
Life became tough and my aunt eventually asked me to leave when I completed Junior secondary school. It was my some relatives who took care of me in senior secondary school because I was brilliant.
I passed my Jamb exam but I couldn’t go to the university immediately because nobody was willing to help. I took a job in an electronics shop to enable me save for my tertiary education as I was bent on going back to school regardless of the situation.
It was then that I met this man, I was 19 and he was 48. He was very caring and helped me a lot financially. He assisted me to purchase my university forms. I fell in love with this man because he gave me all the love I never got from my parents and relatives.
This man more like my father and boyfriend and I felt secured around him though we don’t spend much time together because he is married with kids. Finally I started university a year after and this man was there for me.
No family member of mine not even my mother visited me in school through my 4 years on campus but this man will come around almost every two weeks with provisions and money for my upkeep.
Fortunately one of my Uncles in Spain decided to take care of my school fees and hostel fees, and the rest of my upkeep was taken care of by this man.( feeding, clothing, books etc). I was basically taking care of myself from age 19 and with the help of this man. I graduated from the university. I am almost done with my Service.
Now I’m 23 and he is 52. He keeps fit and still look younger than his age. we have grown to love each other a lot and he has become very jealous and possessive and doesn’t want any other man near me. He wants to marry me as his 2nd wife and his culture allows it and entitled to more than one wife so its not a problem.
My issue is we don’t spend much time together because of his family and we have s*x once in 2 weeks. He keeps telling me things will change when we’re officially married because he wouldn’t have to keep it a secret anymore and I believe him.
He is willing to help me get a job after my service because he is influential and quite powerful and I Know he will get me accommodation and car and all. I’m comfortable with spending the rest of my life with him but my major problem is family and friends, what they will say about me.
Also, will my family will accept a man old enough to be my father as my husband? Sometimes I feel like being his baby mama if my family doesn’t accept him. I’m really confused and don’t know what to do now.