Please hide my identity and tell me what to do. I am a 19 year old girl and I just finished writing WAEC. My parents are having issues presently and I don’t know what to do. When I was young, my parents were so much in love with each other, it was visible and real. I saw it and I loved their connection. My mom was having problems conceiving so I was the only child for a long time. My mom went to so many hospitals to find solutions to her inability to conceive but all to no avail. My dad’s family was on her neck and even as a kid, I could remember that my mom cried so many times as a result of the way my dad’s people were treating her. I was young then so I didn’t know that my dad too wasn’t so good to her. The little I saw, I felt they loved each other but as I grew up, I realized that my mom was suffering and going through a lot of things.
When I was 15, I found out that my dad was having an affair with another woman. She used to come to our house and my mom knew her as well. What I didn’t know as a child was that my mom knew my dad was having an affair with the said lady and she was okay with it. Because of that, I began to hate my dad. At a young age I disliked him and as I grew older, I didn’t understand why on earth my mom chose to stay in such marriage. My dad was trying when it came to providing for the family, to be honest, I have never lacked anything since I was a kid and he loves me too but I can’t bring myself to love him back after seeing the way he was treating my mom. He does not abuse my mom physically but I don’t like the fact that he would be having an affair and still bring his silly attitude home.
Two years ago, my parents tried IVF after a series of persuasion from my mom. My dad initially kept complaining about how expensive it was and also how it was going to be just a game of chance. He let on saying the IVF may not work and he didn’t have money to put in something like that. My mom agreed to contribute so she had to run around and borrow some money which she’ll pay back from her business and she did. Fortunately for my mom, the IVF worked and she gave birth to twins, a boy and a girl. I was very happy, I felt that my dad would change. I thought that he was going to leave the other lady completely and focus on my mom and my family but he did not. He only stopped for a while but he did not leave the lady. The lady even came to see my mom when she delivered, she brought some baby gifts and my mom accepted with all smiles. I don’t even understand why my mom does that.
My dad was nice to my mom after she gave birth and his people also stopped making my mom feel terrible and cry. However, my dad continued seeing the lady for like 6 months after my mom delivered. Since then, they have been together up till now. I thought that my dad was seeing this lady because my mom didn’t have a son which he wanted but I was wrong. Currently, my dad has made his intentions known to everyone who cares to listen. He told my mom and I, including his siblings, that he wants to marry the lady he has been seeing for a long time. I don’t know what to do. I feel drained and tired. As if the shock wasn’t enough on my mom and myself, he went ahead to tell us that my mom will be leaving the main house to the boys quarters when the new wife arrives. What kind of humiliation is that?
My mom has been by his side for so many years and has helped him build his business and this is what she gets in return. He said that I could stay in the main building with my little siblings but my mom must leave for the boy’s quarters. I can’t comprehend this attitude and I feel really angry with the way he is going about the whole thing. I want my mom to stay in the main house but I don’t know what to do. Please help me.