Please hide my identity. I am a single mother of a 4 year old boy. He is such a blessing to me and regardless of the circumstances surrounding his birth, I have grown to love him so much and work hard to make life easy for him. I got entangled with his father when I was 23. I was still in school then and I was in love with the guy I was dating. One thing led to another and I got pregnant for him. He had a business that he was doing so he was a bit buoyant to take care of me. Initially he suggested that we get rid of the baby because he wasn’t ready to father a child or start a home but I refused. I was willing to keep the baby even without his consent. Finally he agreed to keep the child but when I gave birth, he never came and he stopped picking my calls. It was very devastating but I managed to pull through.
My parents were very disappointed in me but they still cared for me. My mom took care of me and the child. She took the baby and I went back to school. I finally got a job and when I was stabilized, I took my son. I have been doing my thing and raising my child. Up till today my baby’s father has not come for the child or anything similar. I once spoke with him and he apologized for leaving me the way he did but he didn’t talk of seeing his son or anything. I have been working hard to earn well and take care of myself and my baby. I have met a few people who were interested in a relationship but when they find out I have a child, they leave. Now I have met a man who loves me even though he knows I have a child.
He however gave me a condition. He said that we won’t live with our son. He is insisting that I will take him back to my parents while we start a new life. I can’t do that. I can’t leave my son like that. I have suffered with him and I can’t stay without my son. My son is also attached to me. I have been trying to explain this to my fiancé but he is not listening to what I am saying. He is a good man and he makes me happy so I wouldn’t want to leave him either. When I asked him why he didn’t want us to live with my son, he said it was because he didn’t want to have issues with the father whenever he comes to claim the child.
I don’t agree with his excuse because the father of my son has never contacted me not to talk of claiming the child. It’s not as if he pays for child support or is in contact with me. No. He doesn’t even care at all and I don’t know where he is. I told my fiancé that my son wouldn’t be beating his name so he had nothing to worry about. Also, I work so I am not depending on him to take care of myself and my son. He is still insisting that I send the boy to my parents house since my mom is strong enough to take care of him. I don’t know what to do. I can’t live without my son and I don’t want to lose my fiancé either.