My future wife doesn’t want visitors!

Please post this for me. I’d like to hear people’s opinions on this issue. It is about my future wife and visits from people. I don’t really agree with her but what can I do? Anyway, here’s the situation.

I am the first born in my family and I have three sisters. I’m the only son and we’re generally a close knit family. I am currently dating a beautiful young lady who is the only child to a single mum. We are born again and I can’t explain the love I have for this woman. I honestly want to spend the rest of my life with her and we intend to settle down together very soon.

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We’ve always agreed on everything since we started dating but I brought up something recently and she didn’t agree with me. Our conversation veered off to talking about siblings visiting and we really argued about it. She is of the opinion that familiarity breeds contempt and therefore she wouldn’t have any of it. Privacy is important to her and for that reason, she says visitors should only stay for a week at most. It doesn’t matter whether they are friends, acquaintances, or family.

My upbringing was totally different. In my home it was normal for us to regularly have guests and sometimes my parents would take them in and we all just grew together. My family is used to people having long stays in our home and it was never a big deal. You could even say it was encouraged and embraced.

How do I now come back and tell my sisters that they can’t visit their only brother as long as they want? How do I ask them to leave after a week? Why should I lock my siblings out of my marriage life surely? Kindly advise me on how I should handle this.



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