Honestly my entire life feels like a motion picture right now. Sorry for the weird formatting, I’m on mobile and this is my first time posting on a sub like this.
I (28M) am planning on proposing to my sweetheart of 3 years (26F). Now, I am terrible at picking out jewellery for her so every time I want to buy something for my girl, I usually seek the advice of one of our mutual friends. My girlfriend best friends are all friends with me as well and we all get along very well, so asking any one of them for help in picking out jewellery for her is something I’m used to.
When it came to time to pick out her engagement ring, I consulted my girlfriends best friend Bola. Bola and I are quite close and she knows my girlfriend better than anyone, including me. So, when my girlfriend when out to visit her sister and nephew, I invited Bola over to the house to help pick out a ring.
Bola and I looked through a few catalogues, but decided it was a dead end and it would be better to go to professionals at a jewelry store. However, I didn’t know when my girlfriend would be coming home, so Bola and I thought of a clever text to gauge how much time we had. I asked her when she’d be coming home, as I was ordering takeaway and wanted to know when to tell them to have the food ready for delivery.
She replied by saying it would be a couple of hours, that she met up with Bola to go out shopping. Now, clearly this took me by surprise since Bola was standing inside my apartment. I showed Bola the text message, and she looked as perplexed as I was.
It is not unusual for my girlfriend to meet up with people out of the blue like that for shopping, lunch, etc. She’s a very impulsive person and loves making plans on the fly. So typically, I would have believed this text in a heartbeat. However, clearly this had to be a lie.
When she came back home she acted totally normal, and I played along but it’s been very difficult to behave like everything is okay. We got the takeaway, ate together, and cuddled on the couch after. So far she has caught on a little that somethings is upsetting me, but I just cannot tell her what. Looking at her kills me.
I really don’t know what to do. My girlfriend and I have zero trust issues and we tell each other everything, so this lie is killing me. I want to ask her about it so bad, but if I tell her I knew she was lying, I’d have to explain why, and I really don’t want to do that.
And if it also turn out that she was into something not nice behind my back,That revelation will destroy everything. I honestly dont think i will be able to cope or handle it. What do I do? I know she lied to me but I don’t know how to confront her about it. Should I just forget it? This won’t stop nibbling at me. Please help!