My husband feels threatened by my success. What can I do?

I need your input on this situation. It has been bothering me and even though I try to overlook it, it lingers and continues to worry me. I am a 36 years old mother of three. My husband is going to be forty years old this year and he is a business guy. He didn’t go to the University because his family could not afford it. I am a University graduate and I studied Economics. I work with a financial institute and I make a decent living. My parents are wealthy and were able to get me a job in a good paying company. Irrespective of the fact that I earn well, I never disrespect my husband. I carry out my duties as a wife and mother, I cook, clean and take care of the kids. We do not have help and I still manage to keep everything in place.

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I notice that my husband feels intimidated sometimes. When I share my experiences in the office with him, he always acts uninterested and ends up shutting me off. He has done that a couple of times and although I try to overlook it, it still bothers me. There are times when we have arguments and he says I always like to show off because I am educated. I don’t know how we ended up this way. Before we got married, I knew he didn’t go to school and I didn’t have a problem with it. I told him it didn’t matter. He was always happy for me and supportive. He was even showing me off to his friends, now I don’t know what changed all of a sudden.

We needed an extra hand in the house so I decided to get a washing machine and an oven since I bake sometimes especially snacks and bread for the kids. I told him about it and he said he didn’t have money. I told him that he could give me the money the following month or whatever he has so that I can complete it and buy them and he agreed. The next month, I asked again and he said he doesn’t have such an amount that I should forget it. Meanwhile I needed it because I was always tired from work and everyone’s clothes piles up and I spend my weekends washing instead of resting. I became weak and looked worn out, I just needed something to ease my burden. I later told him I would find a way to buy them because I needed them urgently.

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I later bought them and instead of being happy with me, he didn’t even show any positive emotion. He just acted like it was nothing. I was showing them to him and explaining to him how I was able to buy them but he just left me there and went into the room. I was sad. I followed him and after much confrontation, he said I was always looking for a way to show off and tell him that I earn well. I was sad. I was supporting my husband but he decided to put it this way. This isn’t the first time he’s doing that so I was hurt more. He always feels like I’m showing off. I am only doing things that will help us as a family. His clothes will be washed using the washing machine, whatever I bake with the oven, he will eat it so why is he acting this way? I am tired. I have been enduring and I can’t continue.


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