Please hide my identity. I am a mother of one, a beautiful girl and We have only been married for four years. My husband married me when I was eighteen. I am from a poor home and my parents were finding it difficult to take care of my six siblings and I. I was a fuel attendant then and that was where my husband met me. He kept making advances towards me and after much persuasion, he came to see my parents. When he came, my parents told him that they would allow him to marry him if he promised to train me in school. He agreed and said that it wasn’t a problem and he would train me up to any level I wanted.
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After we got married, I got pregnant so plans of starting school were shifted. I later delivered my baby girl and when I told my husband about starting school, he said that our baby was still very tender and that I need to take more time so that I can raise her a bit. My mother agreed with him and I had to forget about school. This is the fourth year of our marriage and my baby is currently three years old. I spoke to my husband about school when my baby turned two but his reply wasn’t good enough. Now, I am talking to him about it again and he doesn’t see the need for me to go to school. As a matter of fact, he has been trying to get me pregnant again.
I am a housewife, I don’t do anything else apart from taking care of my baby, cooking and cleaning the house. It is very boring and I want to do more for myself. I can’t look for a job because I do not have a school certificate. It is one of the reasons why I want to go back to school. I love schooling. I see graduates and the effect that education has on them. I just don’t understand why my husband doesn’t want me to go to school. He has enough money to train me. I want to be able to help me and also provide for our family. I believe that when I go to school and get a job, I will be able to achieve that.
My husband said I should forget about school and focus on the family and business. He has offered to start a business for me. I appreciate his willingness to start a business for me but it is not what pleases me. I don’t like business, it is stressful and I don’t think I am cut out for it. I have been making efforts to explain this to my husband but he is so adamant. I am yet to understand why he doesn’t want me to go to school. I know a lot of men that sponsor their wives in school and how much they talk about it. My husband has a friend who is sponsoring the wife in a private university. So why doesn’t he want to do the same for me?