Please keep me anonymous. I am a mother of two and my marriage has left me with so many questions. More than I can even write in this message. My husband is a businessman, sometimes his business requires him to travel to buy his goods and other things. I love him so much and it is very evident in the things I say and do for him. I always ensure that he is comfortable and obeys him whenever he says anything. I strive so much to be both a good mother and a lovely wife. In return, what do I ask in exchange for all of these? Just a husband who loves me, respects me and is available for me both physically and emotionally. But what does he do? Nothing. He only drops money and leaves like its is only money that makes a marriage.
He is comfortable with the way things are going between us but I am not. I have done everything within my power to make him spend more time with his family but he is always claiming to be busy. I love to spend time with my husband. I want to lie on his chest, stroke him, play cute petty games with him and do many other things together but he is never available for these things. He is always into work work work. Work is good. I understand that money needs to be made to take care of many needs of the family but even at that, we need to make time for the most important thing which is us and our family. We need to spend time with our kids. It is not enough to give them money, we also need to train them. Parenting requires both mother and father to be present. I can’t do it alone.
Our children are 5 and 3 years old. Many times they want to spend time with their father but he is not always available. Many times I try to cover up for him and make excuses as to why he is not at home. Even on Sundays that he is supposed to rest, if he is not going for a business meeting, he is going to visit his friends. He doesn’t spend quality time with me or the kids and this is highly disturbing me. I have noticed that my children are no longer inquisitive about their father as they used to be. There was even a time when my daughter made a comment and said “mummy I love you more than daddy.” When I asked her why, she said he was never available and other things she said.
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I felt very bad. For a child of 5 years to make statements like this means that things have gone wrong. My husband was not like this in the past when we got married. He was always available for me. I feel very bad that things are turning out this way and I need a solution. I want to make things right. I want my kids to have a true father whom they can spend time with and play games with him. I go on social media and I see families making cool videos together. I want to do the same. I want to do that and lots more. I really need your help. This is really bothering me. It is very important to me and I don’t know how else to go about it. Please help me. I really really need help. Thank you.