I got married three years ago to someone I thought was the best for me. I took a long time before accepting his marriage proposal because I wanted to be sure he was the right person for me. He was a good man and honestly never gave me a reason to doubt him. The worst part of it is that we dated for a little over a year before we began to talk about getting married. I was still a student then and he was so caring. He sent me money for upkeep and will randomly come and visit me with a lot of goodies. Some of my friends knew him and told me of how lucky I was. He was so caring and I was positive that I had met the right one for me.
After careful scrutiny, I decided to tell my mom about it. That was even before he made known his intentions of marrying me. My mother encouraged me to take my time and get to know him but I think I was blinded by all the money he was spending on me and the gifts I was receiving. This is currently our third year of marriage and honestly, I think I can confidently say that this is the worst man that I have ever met. I have only one child but this man doesn’t even treat me as if I am his wife not to talk of being the mother of his child. My husband beats me without mercy. He has turned me to his punching bag. I have bruises all over my body.
Many times I have to send someone to buy foodstuff for me because I have a lot of bruises on my face and can’t go out without people asking me so many questions. I am a good wife. I listen to him and obey him. I don’t go against his wishes. I have tried to ask him what I did wrong and why he will beat me the way he does. I have not gotten any reasonable response. He beats me in front of our child. I am now afraid of him and I don’t know what to do. The last time I told my sister that he beat him and she confronted him, he got worse. He was so angry that I was telling someone about what was happening in our marriage. Since then, I have grown very afraid of him and I dare not talk to anyone again.
This marriage no longer pleases me and I want to leave. I don’t even want to work things out because it is obvious that this will never work. Things have gone beyond redemption and I have given up. I need ideas on how to leave. I am thinking of running away. I am just scared that he will find me and I don’t know what he will do to me. I want to know if there is any organization or something like an NGO that can help me or shield me from his troubles. He is a strong willed man and has money so it is easy for him to do whatever he wants. I don’t have a job but I have a little savings that can help me and my child feed for some time. I need advice. I want to know how to go about this. I don’t have money to involve the police or lawyers.