My husband wants a threesome for his birthday.

I have something important to share with you but hide my identity. I am a 29 year old lady and I am married to a man I love so much. We have a daughter together and she is just two year old. My husband is 33 and he is currently preparing for his 34th birthday party. I love him so much and I have tried to be a proactive wife. At my last birthday party, he bought me a car to appreciate my efforts in the last few years of our marriage. I was so happy and I wanted to do something more for him. I decided to throw a surprise party for him at one of his favorite hang out locations. I booked the venue at a very expensive rate, I invited his friends and ensured his favourite edibles were available. I could not buy him a car or something as expensive as that but I wanted him to know how much I love him and value him as well. I don’t know how he got information about the surprise party that I was planning for him. He told me about it and insisted I don’t worry about the party. I tried convincing him that it was something I have wanted to do for him for a long time but he said he knew I loved him and I didn’t have to spend so much money to please him. 

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We were dragging the issue out for a long time and when I realized that he was not going to give up, I just had to let him have his way. When I finally agreed to cancel the party I planned for him,  I decided to ask him what he would love me to do for him on his birthday. I was willing to make him happy on his special day. He has been a loving husband and the birthday was going to be an opportunity for me to show him how much of an amazing husband and father he has been to my daughter and I. It was also going to serve as an avenue for me to let him know how much I love him. When I asked him, he said he didn’t know anything loud that a normal dinner would be great. I said that was not enough and so I kept disturbing him. When he noticed that I was not going to back down, he finally opened up to me. He said that all he wanted for his birthday was a threesome. I was so dumbfounded. I honestly could not believe what I heard. 

A lot of things were going through my head. I couldn’t understand what he said and how he wanted me to react. I just went to sleep without saying anything to him. I was numb. I could not get angry, I could not shout or cry. I couldn’t wrap my head around the fact that he wanted to have sex with me and another woman in our matrimonial home. A lot of things were going through my head, I was wondering if I have not been a good wife. I was trying to understand if I have failed in my duties as his partner. Have I not been giving him enough sex? We have a good sex life and he has never complained about my sex skills being poor so I was surprised by his request. The next day, he tried to have a conversation with me about it. I listened to all he had to say but I was very much disappointed. He said he just wanted to try it out for the first time. 

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According to him, he has been hearing people talk about it and lately, he has been thinking about it a lot and would like to try it out. He said it would only be once and he was not going to ask for it ever again. He also said that it had nothing to do with me being a bad wife. He said that I’ve been good to him but he wants to have this sexual fantasy fulfilled. He gave me the leverage to pick any girl of my choice so that it doesn’t look like he is bringing his girlfriend into our home. I am very confused. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know if This is going to affect our marriage. What if he does it outside without my consent? I am angry with the way things are going. I can’t watch my husband have sex with another woman in my presence. What can I do about this?