Help me please. I am a young mother of two. We got married in 2017 and we have lived together peacefully since then. I actually met him through my mom. My mom and his mom used to be coworkers at one government hospital. I had just graduated from university and I was waiting for my call up letter so I would go for service. Being the first child of my parents, my mom was always on my neck to get married even when it was one of the least things on my mind then. She has been pressuring me ever since I was in the university but since I was still in school, she did it in a cool manner so that I didn’t get to complain so much. But as soon as I graduated, it was as if the pressure tripled. She would always ask me if I had anyone in my life and if I said no, she would ask why I didn’t.
This was my struggle with her for a long time until she began to matchmake me with her colleagues’ kids. She tried several times but they didn’t work out. It’s either the men were not well mannered, or they were controlling or our views didn’t align. I was picky. I had my standards and I was not ready to settle for less regardless of the pressure my mom was placing on me or how she would react if they didn’t work out. I had plans and no one was going to ruin it for me. I was already giving up on the incessant matchmaking with clueless men when my husband came along. He was jovial, caring and paid so much attention to details. It didn’t take time for us to click. We got talking and with each passing day, our chemistry grew stronger. From friends, we became companions and partners. I was glad I settled for him.
Life has been good to us. However, even after about 5 years of marriage, my husband still demands sex like we just got married. He wants to have sex with me every minute of the day and I don’t just understand this. We have two kids already yet he doesn’t stop. As much as I love him and can’t even get enough of him, this character of his is beginning to affect various aspects of my life, especially my career. I have a very demanding job and most times, I have tasks to do at home to turn into my team lead the following day. I come back from work around 4pm every day and I get everything in place but when I settle down to finish up some tasks from work, my husband wouldn’t let me be. The only time he rarely disturbs me is when he is tired from the day’s work or when I am asleep.
This is honestly affecting me and I find it very difficult to cope with. I have spoken with him on several occasions about this but nothing seems to change. We have kids and sometimes he does some things that kids obviously shouldn’t see us doing. Correcting him and trying to make him see reasons why he needs to stop acting this way has been futile and it annoys me. Apart from this attitude of his, he is a great man and I appreciate every moment of the day we spend together. I haven’t complained to his mom or his siblings about it because I believe that there are things we can handle on our own but this is getting out of hand. No matter how I try to make things fall in place, they don’t and I am tired. I need to put food on our table and he hardly understands that. Please what can I do? I am tired of managing.