I am fed up and that is why I decided to speak up. My wife is a very weird person. I don’t know how to explain this. How is it possible that someone does not like sex? A married woman for that matter. We have been married for almost a year now and the situation has just been getting worse. My wife is a lovely woman but getting her to have sex with me is a big problem. I met her when I was a banker and we started dating months after we met. She has always been a very upright and polite woman but I never expected that she will still be this rigid even after we get married.
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All the months we were dating, she made it clear to me that it was not going to be a sexual relationship. I understood her so I never even tried to have sex with her. We both understood the rules of the relationship so it was not so hard for both of us to have a successful relationship. I love her genuinely. We dated for eighteen months and I went to see her people. Her family is very receptive and she is quite a religious person. We never had sex until after our wedding. Of a truth, I was looking forward to our wedding night. I haven’t had sex since I met her which was very difficult for me.
I loved her so much so I agreed to wait till marriage. I didn’t even cheat on her at all because of what I felt for her. On our wedding night, it was like was, she was still very tight and wasn’t comfortable with us having sex. I was very understanding. Since it was her first time, it was only normal that she was scared and shy. I waited. I tried again the next day and it was still the same thing. I gave her some time and tried again the following week and nothing changed. That was when I began to get tired. It started to affect our communication because I wasn’t happy. I explained to her several times and she always apologized.
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It has been almost a year since after our wedding and I haven’t had a great sex. How does that sound? I am tired and frustrated. My wife is a sweet soul but we all know the importance of intimacy in marriage. I need it, I crave my wife and I want her to understand but she doesn’t. I understand it’s her body but I have been patient enough. I don’t want to cheat on her. I don’t know what else to do. I am a frustrated and sex starved man. it is very difficult for me to cope. I need a solution. I don’t know what to do. How do I convince this woman to open herself and accept me? How do we even have children? I need suggestions please.