We have been married for 10 years and in a deadbedroom for roughly 4 or 5 years. Today was most definitely rough and I made a decision that enough was enough. I had a chat with my wife and informed her we need a simple solution. I informed her I only see 3 options:
Work and fix our marriage.
She went on a tangent about how I do not care about her needs. She usually says that when I bring our Deadbed up and in the past I have done EVERYTHING to please her. No matter what I did, nothing changed on her end.
Therefore I told her, “make it simple, option 1,2, or 3?”
She replied with “why would you want an open marriage? Nobody will want to fuck a disgusting fat ugly bitch” I shut down. I can’t describe how painful that was to me.
Logically, I know she said that out of anger, but I think that is how she really feels about me.
I immediately just balled up in bed and started crying.
She stood quiet for a moment until she broke the silence to tell me that I hurt her feelings earlier in the day. I was irked, but I apologized sincerely, and then told her I would prefer that we not talk for the rest of the day and asked her if she could go sleep in the spare room. She didn’t and kept talking to me ( no apology) I decided to leave and sleep in my car or at a friend tonight. I’m currently sitting in my car a few blocks down writing this out to vent.
What should i do now? Can somebody please advice me. Thanks.