Newly married but no bedroom action almost a month in

I’ve seen people asking for advice about their bedroom matters and it gave me the confidence to speak up. Maybe I can get a solution as well. My husband and I have been married for three weeks now. You would expect us to be all over each other, right? Well, that’s not the case. Our marital bed is rather cold and I’m not happy about it.

We dated for three years before we got married and since we are born-again Christians, we had agreed that there would be no funny business until marriage. There was no kissing or touching, let alone sex. We’re married now but nothing has changed. We might as well be siblings sharing a house.

Cold marital bedroom

I have tried initiating sex but my husband is not interested. On day four of our marriage I asked my husband what the problem was and he simply said he was tired. I let him rest and gave it more time and I asked again on day six. His response was we should give it time so we can adjust to marriage. He assured me that everything was okay and there was nothing to worry about. It’s been three weeks now and nothing has happened.

Is this normal? I am a 30-year old virgin so I really can’t say much about sex except that I really want it. My husband is 35 years. Has anyone else experienced this and is there hope of things getting better? I feel like quitting this marriage.

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