QUENCHING THE DARTS OF YOUR TEEN’S BULLY

Bayo Ajibola

QUENCHING THE DARTS OF YOUR TEEN’S BULLY

A black eye today, a bruise tomorrow; this is not the life any parent would wish for his teen son or daughter. Why should anybody’s precious child be the recipient of another kid’s mischief and abuse? This is so unfair, albeit it is a daily occurrence in our primary and secondary schools today. Bullying in recent years has been brought to the front burner as a result of some cases of bullying that ended tragically, with either the bully or his victim dead or mortally wounded. Nothing good can comeout of being taunted, mocked and physically assaulted. In as much as some parents would believe the bully would stop his vicious games as time wears on, this rarely turns out to become reality without some form of action taken.

However, as loving parents with years of experience, you must have it at the back of your mind that the way you handle the whole experience your kid is having with his or her bully will go a long way to instill confidence and a sense of direction in your kid. Choosing to leave the issue to whatever the school authorities decide is tantamount to leaving your teen helplessly to the inaction of another. This could make your teen turn to other means of protecting himself from the endless ridicule. Bullying is one of the reasons why teenagers in secondary schools and also in the universities embrace cult groups just to obtain a false sense of protection and cover. Now, before you storm over to your child’s school to warn the teacher or beat the bully black and blue, there are some succinct ideas to help you stop the trend of bullying in your teen’s life.

Firstly, you must have an idea of how the average bully operates. A regular bully will not take his schemes to the door post of a kid he thinks is stronger than he is. The kid may not even be necessarily bigger than he is. The bottom line is confidence. When your teen projects a confident and self-assured image, it creates an air of power around him. This is one atmosphere that makes a bully quite uncomfortable to deal with. Build up your teens. Spend time to explain to them what you see in them which makes them special. No teacher does this for you in their school. It is up to you the parent to instill in them a bold attitude, so they do not end up believing themselves to be natural weaklings. Only then can they be able to stand and face a bully squarely in the absence of any adult.

Also, explain to your teens the root causes of bullying which includes inferiority complex, deep seated insecurities and unhappiness. These make them derive some sense of joy when they bring pains to others. Let your teen see the bully for what he is.

Finally, let your teen to know that it is not necessary for him/her to bully back in return. That will just be like playing on the bully’s turf. It could result in much greater violent attacks and schemes. Don’t also forget to inform the school authority of whatever unpleasant action you may decide to take if nothing is done to stop the bullying of your kid. This will cause them to take a new step against the trend.


Bayo Ajibola

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