Bayo Ajibola


Do you know that you can have a great sex life even in old age? It’s a fact that libido decreases with age, especially for women. This can,consequently, present untold challenges to the relationship as a whole. Nevertheless, the following are steps you can take to increase your libido and make your sex life a heaven on earth.

Be Relaxed:

Sex at an older age may not be the same as it was in youthful times, but in some ways it can be more enjoyable and better.  At an older age, with the children all grown and work less demanding, you’re more relaxed without any distractions.  You’re far more experienced, much confident and know what best works for you in relation to your sex life. For the woman, there are no fears of pregnancy whatsoever. Relax, play, tickle each other and enjoy the intimacy.

Take Supplements:

There are supplements for enhancing your libido, thereby revitalizing your sexual life. These supplements contain herbs that naturally improve your love life, stamina and performance. Some of them are: L-Arginine, L-Tyrosine, Ginkgo Biloba, Ginseng, Selenium, Zinc, Magnesium and Essential Vitamins like Vitamin A, Vitamin B1, Vitamin C and Vitamin E.


Look for ways to give pleasure and satisfaction to each other. Read books, go for professional counselling, and be responsive to each other’s needs and feelings. It’s not unusual to try out new things, like different sex styles. Find out what works for you. Be creative. Explore, explore, explore.


This is very vital in any relationship. Due to the changes in your body, you may feel introverted when it comes to sexual activities. It is, therefore, important to be honest and communicate your fears, thoughts, needs, feelings or desires to your partner and vice versa. When you both talk openly about your concerns, you’ll feel closer to each other and your sex life will be blissful.

Celebrate Who You Are:

Don’t be embarrassed by your aging body or your “inadequate performance.” Accept who you are, celebrate who you are. You have come a long way in life and should be proud of yourself. Have an open mind and a positive attitude, talk about your sexual inadequacies with your partner and joke about your looks or performance. Take life easy. Enjoy your sensuality.

Be Romantic:

Having a beautiful sex life isn’t just about “having sex.”  It also involves intimacy, physical touch, kissing and romance. Enjoy each other’s company. Go for romantic walks,have candlelit dinners, watch romantic movies, give each other sensual massages. These, to mention but a few, can be just as rewarding for both of you.

Seek Medical Help:

The loss of libido in women is being linked to the loss of oestrogen due to menopause. In some cases, this can even make intercourse painful. Fortunately, with Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) treatments, the effects of menopause can be controlled and active sex life regained.  Similarly, there are treatments available for men with erectile dysfunction.

Bayo Ajibola

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