Should i marry from my village against my parents advice?

Bayo Ajibola

I’m a young man of 35. I met this very beautiful lady, aged 33 now, we’ve dated 4 years now. She’s so humble, the love grew out of nowhere. She does everything a woman would do for a man and I do everything a man will do for a woman.

I found myself not doing anything without her and she cannot do anything without involving me, we actually love each other very much.

She started pestering me to have a blood oath with her because she was scared I would leave her. I laughed it off cos I knew I wouldn’t cheat on her, she is everything I wanted in a woman.

Trouble started when I brought her home to meet my parents, I was actually happy that I had found my wife…

When she left, my father asked me where she was from, and I told him and my father told me I can’t marry her because she was from the same village with me and thereby related by blood thereby marrying her is an abomination that she was my sister so to say and said our kinsmen would not be Involved if I insist on marrying her… I felt my world crumbling down like a pack of cards…

I told my girl and she was like, it’s an old tradition and nobody will dictate to her who she would marry and she loves me and there was no going back…

As a man, I thought about it and wanted to let her go because I wouldn’t want the stigma to be on us and my unborn kids… I showed her some attitude to make her hate me but she didn’t, rather she would rather beg me not to leave her even when I’m at fault. I feel bad anytime I do anything to hurt her feelings…

Now, I actually want to get her pregnant and damn the consequences, do a court wedding if the need arises and relocate with her out from our state and start a new life elsewhere…

Another mind is telling me to let her go so we can move on with our lives, or even be a fugitive for her… I however know she will hurt herself if I leave her… I’m very confused about everything, I seriously need help… Why is Igbo tradition this way? I found love with this girl, now everything is about to be stripped away from me, just like that… I seriously need an advice please…

I love this girl so much and she make me happy


Bayo Ajibola

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