My husband is a terrible partner

I am 29 and married with two great children. My husband is a great father to our kids but I can’t say the same of him as a husband. He’s simply a terrible partner. The children get to see him as a loving and responsible person but there’s nothing much to write home about on my side.

Our marriage is six years old. My husband would often go quiet in the earlier years of our marriage and every time I asked whether there was a problem, he would say he just wanted to sit in silence. I didn’t want to come off as a nagging wife so I let him be. I’d often offer sex as a way to help relieve his stress. As a result, I became the only one always initiating sex. Whenever I didn’t ask for sex we didn’t have any. We could even go for months without any bedroom activity.

He moved out

If I didn’t engage him then he’d just stay quiet all the time. He, however, talked to our eldest child. We only had one child at the time. It didn’t sit right with me but when I tried to bring it up he’d get really annoyed and completely shut down. He would get so upset every time we disagreed about anything actually. I resorted to blocking it out and just living my life.

I delivered the second child mid-last year and as soon as I came back home from the hospital, my husband moved out of our bedroom. He moved the older child into my bed and took the child’s room. I was surprised but I didn’t have the energy to ask questions so I kept quiet.

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It feels so disrespectful, it angers me and I feel so hopeless. It’s like things just keep getting worse. I don’t know how to get past this. It’s been a year now and I still feel lost. Neither of us has cheated on the other but I feel like I’ve gotten to my limit. What do I do now?

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