Bayo Ajibola


The joy of almost every woman is to be able to hold a child of their own in their arms and to raise them up to be great. The desire to be a mother will at some point pop up for many women even though they thought they did not want children.

Many women try to conceive for many years and some may at some point realize that something is wrong. Fertility treatments didn’t work and it seemslike there is nothing else to be done but to resignthemselves to their fate. Another avenue exists.

Adoption is the legal assumption of parenting roles and responsibilities by someone who is not the birth parents to a particular child. Some individuals feel that adopting a baby will give them the feeling of starting out from the beginning with parenthood. Others might choose older children.

Older children do not necessarily mean an easier time simply because they can do things for themselves. It takes even more energy and willpower because you don’t know what ideas have already been placed in the child. It is not similar to raising a newborn since newborns practically begin on a clean slate.

Whichever child you choose or end up with be sure to love them with all your heart. Every human being responds to love and affection and this makes a difference to your life as well. You may have doubts about whether you will love this child like your own but don’t dwell on that too long. Keep an open mind and heart and you will realize very little difference.

Before you choose to adopt, remember that you might not feel the same as your partner about adopting. Talk it out and make the decision together. Other people may not think of it as a great idea so make sure you are resolute once you make up your mind.

Check with the relevant authorities about the proper procedure to undertake so that you get the requirements ready. The process may take a while as they go through the legal processes. Since the state might not know you that well there will be a thorough check into your family and life so as to ensure that the child doesn’t go to a dysfunctional home.

Take it all in your stride and be patient because the wait will eventually be over. Once they deem you fit to adopt the process is as good as over and you can begin your parenting journey.

Bayo Ajibola

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