Matured people in the house please teach me a better way of breaking a relationship without breaking the heart of a lady or breaking my own heart as well. My story goes thus; I met this lady and we fell in love with each other then she was in her final year and when she was through i invited her over to my place and she came and we spent a very long time together, at the course of our staying together i found out some things about her apart from the fact that she finds it difficult to apologize when she does something wrong though she is caring and has a loving heart but i found out she has some health issues i mean she is not very strong she can’t lift a 20 litre of water and when she does she will be hyperventilating and most a times she behaves like an asthmatic patient mostly when something like smoke or dust passes through her nostrils but my siblings like her a lot And when she traveled back for her nysc my younger sibling came to me and told me that she really likes this lady and would be happy if i consider marrying her i laughed because she never said a thing like that before then i sat her down and told her all i had found out and she was speechless.
Last 2months ago my mum called me and asked me if i know lady by the name favor (not real name) and i told her yes, she said she was in the dream when she saw me wedding a lady by that name then i couldn’t hide the truth i told her i have a lady by same name but this is what i found out about her and she said if that is the case that i shouldn’t go ahead with the relationship but before she said that reminded me a Vision she saw when i was in jss3 when she woke me and my younger sister by 4am to ask us the meaning of favor (not real name) and we told her and she said a voice told her is the name of her first daughter in-law to be which I’ve even forgotten long time ago.
The fact that she finds it hard to apologize when she does something wrong coupled with the health issue is what is giving me serious concern. I am a young man still struggling to survive and getting married to someone of such is not my dream. That i want to break up with her is not because i don’t love her but there are things i that i think love alone cannot do. I have called her several times to tell her I’ve lost interest in the relationship but we end up saying some sweet nonsense to each other and hang up. How do i break up with her without hurting her or myself. Thanks.