we have be in a relationship over 3 years and recently married. Neither of us grew up in Islam, but she decided to convert few days ago (in quarantine). She is now threatening to divorce me if I don’t say the two sentences and shower, which is declaring my conversion. I grew up in a christian household and consider myself agnostic at this point. I felt indifferent about islam, but it now feels personal because it’s driving my wife to thoughts of suicide and her feeling like she will die and be sent off to hell tomorrow if I don’t convert today. Initially, we agreed it was fine if she practiced Islam (praying, fasting, and etc) but now it’s convert or divorce. I don’t know what to do or say, we’ve been arguing for few days but she seems to get more extreme, the more she reads. I keep telling her I understand her beliefs but the intensity and the ultimatums are not normal. For me, this is my line and I won’t convert under such threats.
Conversion is an important element of Islam and is linked to rewards in heaven. Also as Fahad mentioned, as per Islamic jurisprudence, a man can marry and woman of the book ( Christianity, Jewish faith, Islam) but the book doesn’t allow such liberties for women.
Basically bro, you either leave her or convert. Islam also doesn’t allow reconverting back to the old faith, the punishment for a murtad can be death. Hence most Ex-Muslim atheists live in fear.
My suggestion is that you find a new life or a new faith, which will be painful.