HOW TO MAKE YOUR GIRLFRIEND HAPPY. Being in a relationship is a lot of work, but it can also be incredibly amazing and rewarding. If you are freaking out about making your girlfriend happy, remember that with a bit of effort and basic kindness you can give her what she needs to find happiness in your relationship.
But before all that, you need to get to know her as an individual first. By doing this you’ll then be able to figure out what your girlfriend wants, needs and values.
Very easy right?
Maybe not, but don’t worry. We will be shedding some light on the things you need to do to make your girlfriend happy in your relationship such that even if everything else in her life is a mess, you will be the one great thing she would continue to appreciate and rely on.
UNDERSTAND WHAT MAKES HER HAPPY
One thing you need to first understand is that your girlfriend is a person with her own wants, fears, and needs and the more you know about the kind of person she is and the things that make her special, the easier it would be for you to do the things that can make her happy.
Talk to your babe about the things she likes to do and the things she cares about. Participate and take an interest in those things that are important to her.
Let’s say she tells you that she enjoys playing video games, don’t just go “oh really?”. Ask her which ones are her favorites. And if you are a gamer yourself, see if she’d be interested in gaming with you.
Or if she likes writing, ask her if you could take a look at her work.
You can’t know what your girlfriend likes or wants if you don’t ask her. Not only does genuinely taking interest in her interests let her know that you care, it makes it easier for you to be a supportive partner.
Encourage her to speak her mind if she needs something.
NEVER MAKE ASSUMPTIONS
This is a very common mistake that guys make. Never, ever make assumptions about your girlfriend. They can be very damaging to your relationship. It can be very easy to fall into pitfalls by making the assumption that you know how your girlfriend thinks, what she feels and what she wants. If you are ever in doubt, always ask!
For example, don’t just assume she would enjoy romance movies just because it’s a popular girl thing. You might end up finding out that she would rather go shopping or a fun game night indoors instead. No wonder she dozed off during that movie hmm?
Even as the relationship progresses, don’t just assume that she’s happy either. Once in a while, check in with her and let her give you some feedback on how she feels about the relationship. Something like, “Hey babe, do you prefer if we went out to the cinema more often?” would go a long way in identifying any preference she might have been keeping to herself.
Also, don’t assume she knows what you have in mind either. She’s not psychic. If you have something on your mind, open up to her in a way that is respectful and loving.
DO THINGS YOU BOTH ENJOY
When you have fun with your girlfriend, it’s a great way to keep the relationship positive and make her happy. When you find activities that your girlfriend can enjoy with you, it will help you bond closely while also having a really great time.
Always make the effort to spend some quality time together, just the two of you.
After all, the happiest relationships are those in which both partners take the time to have fun and play with each other.
DON’T IGNORE HER FAMILY AND FRIENDS
One of the things that will make your girlfriend happy is when her other relationships thrive while you are together. When you take an interest in her family and friends, you are showing her that you also respect how important those aspects of her life are.
Plus its also an additional way for both of you to have fun together. You can even plan group events instead of hanging out with only your girlfriend all the time.
At the same time, introduce your babe to your own family and friends. She might feel excluded otherwise. When you want to spend time with them, try to include her once in a while as well.
A LITTLE ROMANTIC SURPRISE WOULDN’T HURT ONCE IN WHILE
Sure, planning and spending time together is essential, but a little surprise once in a while can keep things exciting for her. Give her an unexpected present ‘just because’ or plan a mystery rendezvous or even surprise her by cooking her favorite meal.
You don’t even have to make the surprise elaborate so don’t worry. Something as simple as sending her a little love note works fine too.
BE OPEN AND HONEST
The best of relationships are built on trust and honesty. And women are especially sensitive about these things. So if you want to make your babe happy, show her that she can rely on you by being honest. Don’t tell lies to her or try to hide things from her.
Also, show her that you can be trusted by keeping any promises you make to her. Nothing hurts a woman more than broken promises.
On the other hand, if she trusts you to keep something in confidence, don’t go blabbing about it to another person without permission from your girlfriend.
A word of warning though: being honest isn’t the same as being unkind or rude. Don’t say unnecessarily mean or harsh things and then write it off as “tough love” or as you being “brutally honest”.
Bottom line, your girlfriend will be the happiest if you treat her with love, respect, and compassion. Apart from being there for her and doing nice things for her, respect her boundaries, listen to what she has to say and don’t hesitate to say sorry when you mess up.