Bayo Ajibola

Why Do I Have Sexual Feelings While Breastfeeding

This is one topic that is almost considered taboo (even though nobody really said it is). Talking about it feels awkward and feeling it leaves you a little confused. What do you do? How do you react? Who do you tell and how?

Mothers are encouraged to breastfeed but some have a very interesting experience. Well, interesting in theory. Some women feel some sort of arousal that is very similar to sexual arousal. Shock, disgust and sometimes even guilt plague those who experience this sensation.

What causes it?                          

There are a lot of hormones that come into play during pregnancy, after pregnancy and during breastfeeding as well. The hormone oxytocin especially is responsible for many occurrences in the female body at any one time. Prolactin stimulates the production f milk and is nicknamed ‘the mothering hormone’.

Oxytocin assists with the flow of milk from the glands into the ducts and out of the nipple by causing the alveoli to contract. This is what causes that tingly feeling just before the milk starts to flow.

This same hormone causes contractions during labor, uterine contractions while breastfeeding (that explains why your stomach aches when you breastfeed) and the very pleasurable contractions during an orgasm. So by virtue of this onehormone, all these processes are related.

The best part about this is that it is all normal and feels good so enjoy it while it lasts but don’t confuse the two sensations. Breastfeeding is a time to nurture your baby and the rest could also be caused by the accomplishment you feel as you nourish your baby so just go with it. You will find that it will eventually end.

It is nothing to be ashamed about and there is a perfectly sensible explanation for it. Don’t beat yourself up about being twisted or wrong. That could actually lead you to hating breastfeeding and you very well know that if you don’t enjoy something your child will just sense the tension. Besides, breastfeeding is the biggest way that you can bond with your baby so just push it aside in your mind and enjoy the fact that you are satisfying your child both emotionally and nutritionally.

If you probe some moms a little more you may find that you are not the only one. Encourage each other and stop wondering whether you will end up abusing your child because of that feeling. A mother is a special person who can handle anything that is brought on her so relax and watch your baby grow.


Bayo Ajibola

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